Mr Smooth - Part 3 of 3

And the last section for Mr Smooth ....

His attributes - Ace of Cauldrons (Cups)

Now this was the card that I drew for my daily card on the day that he actually first emailed me! I was quite taken aback as this was not the card I was expecting if I'm brutally honest with myself. After the way the other cards have flowed, this really threw me. Time for a self-awareness check .... am I just looking at the negatives, not giving someone a proper chance ... because with the imagery on this card ... this card is saying that his attributes are he's someone new, that he has a potentially huge capacity for love .... an untapped reservoir, pure and flowing ... albeit locked away in a secret place ....... perhaps then, when viewed alongside the Page ... it's more that the potential is there ........ but for the right person. I don't think that's me!

Connection to me - 4 of Rods (Wands)

Well ..... this was definitely not what I was expecting.  Again!  Home, happy families ....... and combined with that Ace .... the potential could be really good ........ but .... isn't there always a but ...... here I'm going to say I remind him of home ........ and that's not necessarily a good thing.  Very often we subconsciously try to replicate what we have grown up around ..... yep, it's those family dynamics!  Obviously I don't know what's happened in this person's life so far, apart from he's moved around a lot in shorter term relationships (according to him) .... so this card could also mean that with me ..... well, I'm not messing around ... if you connect with me, you have to be genuine .... want a proper relationship ... with all that entails .... a potentially good sign with the 3 wands above ..... after all you do progress from a 3 to a 4 ..... but am I convinced yet?  Not really ...

Overall suitability - King of Rods (Wands)

Oh well ...... fiery, passionate but controlled, and charming.  This King has strength, and surety within him ........ and yeah, given I'm supposed to be a natural Queen of Wands (I'm trying to embrace those aspects rather than Ms Queen of Swords) .... you could view this as saying yes .... a natural match.  Here comes the But again .... But .... I associate this particular King not only with an ex who kept trying to return every time his other "ex" dumped him ..... and there's no way I want a repeat of that relationship ........ but also with the path of individuation as this card became my Stalker for a long time until I actually realised what he was talking about.  Therefore, this King is married (see the ring on finger in the card) ..... and not available.  My words on drawing this card "Look elsewhere".

Base card - Karma (Judgement)

As so you shall reap what you sow ..... it's a well-known saying but the cliches are usually around because there is a semblance of truth in them.  When we meet people, we invariably learn something from them ....... be that what we want to be like, what we don't want ....... how we are perceived ..... what we want or yearn for from others.  Karma at the bottom of the deck is telling me there is such a lesson here for me too ...... and if I judge others by certain standards ...... I need to be prepared to be judged the same in return ...... even if that leaves me "found wanting"!

If you play with fire you may very well get burnt. Tread carefully.

Quint of the spread: The World

No foundation and practicality here .... she is isolated, alone and vulnerable in her own little world.  All elements are surrounding her but she is unable to reach them .... indeed I would also see this as needing to rise above the normal concerns that she has ....... the phrase that floated in here (and I hope to God this doesn't sound arrogant because it's not meant that way) was "she's in a different league" because after all, she's not on the same planet in this imagery!

Overall thoughts/Update

Well, there were several days of emails .... and in fact this turned out as I originally thought it would .....  I think he is a player!  Basically he didn't live where he purported to live .... and would only be visiting that particular town, the one I would be in, on two specific days .... so from what I can gather he was lining up his favourites to meet with ... and no doubt see what he could get out of it.  It wouldn't have surprised me to learn that he had given "slots" to each person .... needless to say I blocked him .... in fact only one of two people that I have blocked so far ... the other because I accidentally came across someone from the same firm as me ..... and of course you have to check the profile to make sure it is them ... and then you don't want them thinking that you've been "checking them out" .... eek!  I think I had a lucky escape here! 

Further update

He is either no longer on the site, or hidden.  So, overall maybe not a "player" .... but "playing the game" (someone said that to me at work this week .... apparently most people multiple email/date rather than one at a time) while waiting to see if one particular person was "the one".  If so, then hopefully it will work out for them :)

Mr Smooth - Part 2 of 3

Continuing on with Mr Smooth ....

Genuineness - 3 of Rods (Wands)

Interesting card for this position .... it's not like it's a definite negative or positive (after all, all cards have both aspects) ...... the 3 wands is normally seen as a "waiting game" .... and I do see that as answering part of the question ....... however I am also going to add in here that while yes, he may be "waiting for the One" ...... while he's on this site, he also likes playing the "game", connecting to others ....... and basically if he thinks his efforts will bear fruit ...... then he'll take what he can get in the meantime.

His banter - The Close (Death)

Deadly!!!  Hahaha, that says it all really ..... combine that with the Knight of Cups and I bet he's very successful in his job!  So ..... pretty lethal with words .... I would say expect a lot of wit, but also very sharp too .... that blade looks very dangerous.  And not forgetting the child .... so likely fun and/or childlike .... naivete too can come across as very charming if you think someone is being genuine.  Let's not forget too the intensity of Scorpio which rules the Death card ... although it's often said that the waters of Death can be pretty stagnant .... basically watch your back ... there could be more consequences to this banter than you expect ..... especially if you land in dirty water!

His flaws - Page of Cauldrons (Cups)

Now .... given that we have both the Queen and the Knight above ...... I am wondering if this is the connection with a child. However, I could never view a child as a "flaw" ..... yet that family connection seems strong ...... another possible warning that all is not as is seems, and actually, he really isn't single! There is also the emotional immaturity aspect here ...... he could be very childlike ...... not ready or able to give commitment (regardless of what he says about wanting a genuine long-term relationship) ...... or it could even be that he doesn't even really know what he wants emotionally. Basically, as each card is laid down .... what I'm seeing here is someone who isn't really suitable for me.

Mr Smooth - Part 1 of 3

Candidate - Mr Smooth

Ah yes, isn't there always one .... smooth as silk, probably able to charm the birds from the trees, get what he wants and make it look like no effort was involved whatsoever .... thinks he has the gift of the gab (most likely does) and probably doesn't like to take no for an answer. I should note here that he emailed me, after flagging up my profile .....

His look - Knight of Swords

Well now ...... from the card, you could take it that he's young looking since he's a Knight ... that he is blonde, has rather strong features to look at, maybe even some stubble given that the chainmail is up over his chin ...... with possibly a straight nose. I'd also add in here that his profile would be rather serious-looking and he could seem to be rather "sharp". One other thing I've often noted with this particular card is that the helmet looks like a bloody lemon ..... now lemons may be nice in cake ..... so sweet talking is a possibility here .... but I also see that aspect on this card as being rather bitter ....... if so, that's not going to be quite so easy to find out!

His job - Knight of Cups

Ahhhh and onto the court card that can denote flattery ..... charm ... someone who will promise you the earth, and often believe it while they're "talking the talk" ....... so I'd say perfect for someone in a media/advertising role and who needs to have a lot of smooth patter to reel the clients in.  Given the emotional element with this card .... I also wondered if perhaps there was something about helping others .... a social cause if you will ........ and apparently this is the case.  Just because someone is "smooth" doesn't mean they don't have a heart ....... after all, we all have them ...... hearts that is ...... whether or not their promises ever come to anything is another matter!

His family - Queen of Cups

Ahhhh, well here's where I started to wonder about Mr Smooth's sincerity ..... or, what's the word ... it's not appropriateness ........ hmm I guess eligibility will have to suffice ..... a Queen ...... when talking about a mature bloke and his family ... it's most likely going to be talking about either his mother or wife/partner! My first thought was actually in reality he's likely to be a bit of a "mummy's boy" .... not that he runs round after her, but was likely spoilt rotten as a kid and doted on, to the detriment of how he views women ......... and what I actually typed on drawing this card ..... was that he is still tied to his "ex" who is the mother of his child ..... either that or he's actually still in a relationship with her and lying about being single.

Dating ..... cards and candidates!

So ... after a long time of being nagged to do it, of more and more people doing it ... and of actually seeing that yes, it does work for some people ... I've finally succumbed to the world of ... *gulp* internet dating!

Now I have to be honest here and state that I have .... or should that read "had" .... no belief in it for myself.  Given that quite a few years ago some friends kind of coerced me into doing the internet thing and it confirmed everything I thought at the time, I swore off it for a loooooong time!  Along with the excuses ... I'm happy on my own (I actually am), it's for Losers (capital L intended there .... and yeah I know .... it's not, but I wasn't quite so self-aware of my own self-sabotage at that time) .... it doesn't work (this is now patently not true given a work friend is on her fourth ... or maybe fifth, relationship .. and another friend is getting married soon etc. etc. etc.!), plus of course there's the laziness, the lack of time .... the lack of commitment ....... and basically .... yeah, hiding away in the cat cave of safety (as one friend coined it).

Now it's very cosy in that cave ... and doesn't stop you looking of course ........ but after a year of meeting what I shall deem "The Inappropriates" ...... even I had to say enough is enough.  Add in to that some not so subtle signs from the Universe, and the decision to go ahead was made before I went to the yoga retreat in Barbados ... with the intention I'd join as soon as I got home.  I didn't.  I prevaricated yet again.  So, more swift kicks from the Universe ...... and friends (I hate being called a coward ...) ....... so I duly signed up (after checking several out first ...... the website that "won" .... swayed me over by a couple of specific profiles that I saw ..... some people say fussy (or even finicky) ... I say I have high standards *grin*.

Anyway ....... it's a journey.  One I may ..... or may not ....... end up blogging about over at Mouse's House ........ but in the meantime, I figured why not see how accurate the cards are ..... and what they have to say about any "prospective candidates" ......

Happy New Year 2012

Learning to detach

Very often we can come across situations which you know will resurrect old feelings and highlight where you still need to do some healing. Just after my birthday a weekly draw I did told me something was going to happen along these lines.

  

King of Cups ~ 3 Swords ~ 8 Swords

Base card ~ 10 Wands

When I drew these I automatically thought that the King represented a bloke I know, but that wasn't the case, and a very good reminder not to get hung up on the possibility that a court card always has to represent a person! In this case it shows (I hope, at any rate) some mature emotional detachment, being able to look at a situation and not over-react or take absolutely everything to heart, which is what I have done on many an occasion over the years! The overall situation I found out about did bring up past issues, and as denoted by the 3 swords, they were pretty painful! There was an instinctive reaction to go into over-analysis and retreat to the inner world and feel sorry for myself, but I do think that King helped to negate the effects.

The base card also showed me the underlying reasons for how I thought what I did, and how I felt! Very often we put ourselves under undue pressure and do the same to others, especially when it comes to hopes and dreams for what we think people can achieve, become, or even should want to do. This then creates expectations of ourselves (and others) which eventually can lead to disappointment, especially when what we want (or hope) are either unrealistic or not what someone else wants for themselves. And at the end of the day, their life is entirely theirs to do with as they please!

Deceit revealed!

I was recently lucky enough to get away on a yoga retreat abroad and I have to say that it was brilliant. It was also very hot and it's taken some adjusting being back in the UK with rain, wind and low temperatures. Time to get the hot water bottle out methinks. Anyway, before I went away I drew some cards ........ actually I drew 3 lots from 3 different decks! And promptly forgot all about what they were - nothing new there then! I was also privileged to read for a few of my yoga buddies whilst away and of course encouraged them to try and read a card intuitively *grin*. One of them gave me a warning! And when I came home I saw how right they were, and how I should have taken more note of my previously drawn cards!! Mind, I guess if I'd done that, I may have spent my time away worrying about what was going on at home, so it's probably a good job I didn't.

The spreads were as follows:

Llewellyn Tarot

   

Seven of Swords ~~ Page of Cups ~~ Four of Wands

Base card ~ Chariot

Mystical Lenormand

    

Stars ~~ Book ~~ Fox ~~ Ship ~~ House

Base card ~ Dog

Tarot Universal Dali

  

High Priestess ~~ 7 Swords ~~ 8 Pentacles

Base card - Ace of Swords

While looking at comparing the 3 spreads afterwards, I found some fantastic similarities!

Two spreads had the 7 swords. Whilst often called the "thief" card it indicates sneakiness, lying and trying to get away with things that aren't very good. Pretty much similar to the Fox card in the Lenormand tradition wouldn't you say!

The High Priestess keeps secrets, just like the Lenormand book card.

The 4 wands is traditionally seen as a card of "home" and can very often denote our actual physical residence/house ....... just like the Lenormand house card!

Mid-week I was out on a catamaran and noticed some very large birds! Definitely not your average seagull, and the captain informed me that they were Frigate birds! It was the very next day that my friend gave me the warning! On getting home I googled frigate birds and found this description courtesy of http://www.spiritwalkministry.com/spirit_guides/bird_animal_spirits:

Frigatebird -- A seafarer that cant swim, puffing up the chest to appear important, will defend its own turf but no other, a pirate and a thief

Another connection there with the Fox and 7 swords I would think, affirmation (or should that be confirmation) that indeed, deceit had been in hand!

So what had happened? Someone had badly scraped my car as they drove into the parking space in front of my car! I have been having some ongoing issues with a neighbour concerning their anti-social noise nuisance, and upon inspection that very night of getting home, I found a car with matching marks! Dutifully I left a note on there and what do you think the odds are of that very person being related to said neighbour!!! Yep, and of course they denied all knowledge. Thankfully my insurance company have been brilliant at sorting out the repairs and even the guy at the repair place said that whoever caused the damage will be more than aware they've caused it because it's so deep (and you can include indentations in the plastic bit on the front bumper!).

Anyway .......... with hindsight, how does each set of cards read?

Llewellyn - A thief in the night (7 swords) caused damage near the home front (4 wands and tents in 7 swords) when ferrying kids around (kid in 7 swords). I of course was totally oblivious as I was stood on a cliff admiring the watery scenery (and I was - Page of Cups imagery spot on!). The damage related to my car (Chariot).

Mystical Lenormand - At night (Stars) secret (Book) and sneaky damage (Fox) was caused whilst I was away (Ship) from home (House). I know who did it (Dog).

Dali - Secretive (High Priestess) deceit (7 swords) needing quite a bit of work (8 pentacles) brings new knowledge (Ace of Swords) - and it did as I didn't know the neighbour's surname until this point!

I think I might just have to try some more multi-spreads in future and see what comes up!

Merry Christmas

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Samhain Blessings

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Good from bad!

Clearing out some old drafts and I came across this weekly draw (from 30 May):

6 pentacles ~ 10 swords ~ 3 cups

Well I figured I would be given something, which was due to an ending, and which I would celebrate!  Given that those 10 swords in the middle look rather painful, I didn't expect it was all going to be a bed of roses.

As it turns out, my next college course was cancelled.  After speaking to the tutor, he confirmed he would be returning my deposit to me, although this did take a couple of weeks!